Am I spoiling my baby ??

I remembered how frantic it was at the sound of my baby’s cry, especially during the first few months after . Just imagine, being a new mom with no experience at all, situations like that makes us yearn for someone who’s experience to help us to cater to our baby’s needs.

In my case, I was considered quite lucky (minus the part on the confinement lady) because my parents in law live nearby and they were always there to help whenever the call for help strikes. Still, taking care of a child is a daily learning process, whether it’s a case of you’ve been there, done that or being an inexperience mum, just like me. The truth is as a child grows, so will your knowledge.

Recently, I over heard lady A told lady B that someone taught her not to pick her crying baby up because if she did, she’d be overly pampering and spoiling her baby. For a moment, my mind went blank and hear only cricket sound....

OK, honestly? (but then again it’s just my opinion) picking up a crying baby will definitely not spoil/pamper your baby! In fact, from my very own experience, by attending to my crying baby, I am actually “telling” my baby that she’s in safe hands and believe it or not, that will actually help to build up the security and confident feelings in my baby. Not to mention also, the feeling of being loved…. and how can I tell all this ? As of now, she’s 9 months and she hardly cries unless she needs attention. So you see, in a way, I have taught her indirectly that when she cries, mommy will come and soothe you and there’s no need to cry anymore. I also want her to know that she’s safe with mommy and daddy, and that she’s well taken care.
I really do not understand how that sort of affection from a mother to her baby can lead to spoiling the child! Come to think of it, if a baby cries, wouldn’t that probably means she needs something? Babies can’t talk, so obviously the only way to communicate with us is through crying!

Okay, so the next question is, how would I know if I am spoiling my baby then? I am thinking in a scenario whereby your baby is probably at the age of 7 months, and she’s beginning to recognize facial expression. And she wants to bite on to a dirty railing for instance. So yes, in this case, you can be stern with her and tell her “no” by shaking your head or a finger gesture indicating “cannot”. And… she cries. Spoiling in this case to me would mean you immediately pick her up and give in to her crying and allowing her to do what she wanted to do earlier, thus chanelling the wrong signal to your little baby. Your baby will soon understands that if she doesn’t get what she wants, all she has to do is cry and you’ll give in.
However, if you show her that you are upset and if she cries, you stick firm to your gesture and say, “mommy is not happy” and try to explain to her in simple words, like “dirty, cannot bite… this is dirty”, you’ll be amazed to find out that she actually understands! Work your way out by diverting her attention to her toys and she’ll soon forget about biting the dirty railing!
True, sometimes a baby’s crying can drive us up the wall, but hey, isn’t that all part and parcel of being a mother?

Proud mary keep on rolling

A friend of mine, Stella has recently posted up a clip of little Rosemary , at that time she’s probably about 4 months old and she had just learned how to roll over. As she has just mastered the skill, her rolling over skills are still pretty clumsy. Watch her in this clip as she tries to roll over with the cheerleading cheers with funny motions from my brothers and my father. Hope you’ll enjoy…

I could be the next cast for twilight movie ..

I came across a blog and found an interesting article the writer wrote about and decided to feature that fun stuffs on my blog too. It's really nice to fool around with.

Now, how does this fun stuffs work? (to those who got no work and absolutely free, you should amuse yourself with this, at least you will be spending the next 30 minutes doing something!)


Well, firstly go to http://www.photofunia.com


You should be seeing lots of templates displayed like this.



Say for instance, I wanna choose twilight template..and be a wannabe Kristen Stewart.


Satisfied with the template? then, click on choose file and upload a picture of yourself. In my case I have decided to choose this picture..


Wanna see the outcome now…..?

Tada.. !!!


(Though I should have gotten a better resolution picture...)

Cooh heh? Now I can go about telling people I have met Robert Pattinson and took a picture with him. Don’t believe me…?? Hey, here’s a picture of us as proof! Kekekekeke…

And you can do so much more anyway..





See? I told you isn't it.. your 30 minutes have past and you did something great finally!!

3 important men in my life

Father’s Day is just around the corner. To be precise, it’s going to be celebrated on 20 June 2010. Okay, honestly, I can’t think of what to do on that day though for sure I want to do something for the 3 important people in my life. If you can guess them correct, yep they are ….. *drums rolling*….... tada! my beloved father, my dearest husband and my wonderful father in law!

As I am writing this, I am recalling back to those days when I was little, my younger brothers and I will gather up our piggy bank’s savings (most of the times, I contributed the most!) and we buy little gifts for our dad. Of course, as we grew older, the gifts grew bigger too. But since we have all grown up now, the tradition of this gifts have somehow dissolved by itself and nowadays, it’s only celebration over dinner. As simple as it may sound, but to me, it’s the family gathering that matters and most importantly, this little gathering comes with love and utmost appreciation for my father who have worked very hard all these years to provide for the family. Words cannot describe how much I love my dad whom I fondly call Papi.. (okay now, don’t jump the gun, I am not calling him a little puppy! Papi simply means father in Spanish) So you see, with this coming father’s day, I am pretty sure it’s going to be another dinner celebration but as simple and common as it sounds, it’s a special celebration to us because it comes with love and gratitude and appreciating every moment we spent together as a family.

Next on the list, my wonderful father in law. For now, never have I heard of anyone speaking fondly of their in laws and I always thought to myself, geeee… I must be the luckiest girl on earth to have such wonderful and understanding in laws and yep, sometimes I brag a lot too about it! Okay, you may think that I am buttering up my father in law now. Honestly it does not bother me at all. I think my father in law whom I fondly call dad deserved to be told and showed exactly how important he is, including my mom in law, (mum) and for all they have done for me, I want to say a BIG thank you. Really, words cannot describe how blessed I am. So you see, for that also, even though it may be going to be perhaps, just over a lunch celebration, still it’s a very special celebration to me because this celebration comes with love and yes, gratitude too. I am so blessed too because they have been taking such good care of little Rosemary and I know little Rosemary loves them dearly.

Finally, my beloved hubby. A direct message this time....This is going to be your first Father’s Day celebration and before I say anything else, I just want to wish you a Happy Father’s Day! You have been a great husband and a wonderful daddy. Of course, we have our ups and downs, but we always managed to pull it through. We understand each other so well and no matter what, at the end of the day, it’s all about love and trust. You have been a great daddy to little Rosemary and I know too that little Rosemary is very proud of you. Thank you too for being such a great, loving, understanding husband and a wonderful daddy.

So on this Father’s Day, I am taking this opportunity to write here to my papi, dad and my hubby.. wishing you all, Happy Father’s Day!

Here's dedicating to all the wonderful fathers in the world... :)

Where is the love-Updated version

On my way to work, I will normally drop by On the Run, Esso Petrol station to grab my favourite cup of Cappuccino. And a few months back, like usual, I dropped by On the Run. A very unusual sighting, I saw a few policemen walking about at the entrance. I thought to myself, oh well.. perhaps a robbery just happened. I walked to the cash counter to the familiar attendant and asked her what happened. To my horror, she replied sadly; somebody dumped a baby. My heart broke into pieces. I walked solemnly back to my car and my whole day was filled with sadness. All I could think is how could a mother dump her own newborn. I cannot imagine how is that even possible. All I could think is for a mother to dump her newborn, she must be in a really out of mind state.



But it got me thinking, perhaps society too should be blamed for such an act? Because we have been so judgmental and we are so good at discriminating each other while condemning these girls who got pregnant out of wedlock, or maybe even worse of the case, have we ever stop to think, perhaps they could be even rape victims? And because out of desperation and fear, thanks to us.. these girls have no choice but to abandon their newborn, leaving these sinless babies to die. We should ask ourselves then, who are we to judge them? Why should there be a punitive approach to these girls who got pregnant out of wedlock? Do you think by punishing these girls, we can actually stop the rest of the youths from having sex?? And why are we always discriminating the girls? What about the biological father? Why not hold him responsible too?

So you see, with all these questions on my mind, I really think that the answer to these questions is it is time for us to change and start educating each other. I personally feel that we should also educate our children on sex education. Yes, I know some of you may disagree but I do hope many of you are with me. Come to think of it, if we educate our children just on one main issue; the risk of having sex , just like we normally tell our kids on the risk of taking drugs, the risk of stealing..and the lists goes on, don’t you think this will actually give them a better understanding about sex and in return, they will become aware of the consequences. In short, they will think twice before getting into it. I strongly believe that most youngsters do not have a clear understanding of what sex is and that is why they eventually fall into temptation to try it, just to experiment it. As the saying goes, curiosity kills the cat.

Prevention is better than cure and educating our children on the risk of having sex, even unprotected sex, is essential. Sadly, I learned that sex education in our schools is still a pretty controversial issue. Why should this be controversial? Some say, by educating them, we are encouraging them. Exploring sex is a part of every youths growing up process. And that is the truth. Nowadays, it is so easy to obtain sexual materials and engaging in sexual activities for instance sex online through the internet. Even if you restrict these websites at your home, you wouldn't know if your child has access to these at her friend's house or even in cyber cafes.

That is why, if you ask me, I feel that it is very important also to educate boys to respect girls and not to take this "activity" for granted. I don’t think that by educating them in subjects like biology is sufficient to highlight the main reasons behind sex education. Our world is changing. Believe it or not, our kids are getting smarter and I believe they are matured enough to capture our intentions if we educate them properly on sex education. We should stop under-estimating our children level of intelligence and the truth is, we too need to grow up.

Just a note, I fully support OrphanCARE’s baby hatch. Read further in the below link.

http://thestar.com.my/lifestyle/story.asp?file=/2010/6/6/lifefocus/6406632&sec=lifefocus